When men do interior decorating: The "man cave" in Albany. (From The Times Union)
Here's a picture of a space some state workers created for themselves inside the maintainance area of a garage in Albany, New York. They had it all, a place to relax, some access to entertainment, the works. They also hung out here in their work hours and smoked pot.
It has been called a "man cave" by the press, and I think the primeval images this conjures up is no coincidence. To a significant degree, male taste and needs have been squeezed out of many homes. In one way this looks like laziness on the men's part: They just can't be bothered to do anything about it. But saying the same about certain women's inability to change fuses, say, would be outrageous. These kind of women, though steadily getting fewer, derive some benefit from not having to take care of absolutely everything, while their men get a nice feeling of superiority by taking care of it. Same goes for how a home is decorated. Choose your battles, some men seem to think to themselves. Let the missus choose the drapes and wallpaper.
But then you're left with no place to call your own. Except maybe the bar or, possibly, the gym.
Author James Kunstler has some interesting thoughts, occasionally slopplily presented, on the subject of male space in his latest podcast.
Me, I got this all sorted out. Nothing to complain about. But I am struck by the combination of neutered men and abhorrent misogony I find in areas and cultures where men have little or no say about their personal environment. Suburban areas often fit that bill, unless there is some access to a cool garage.